Aftercare <\/strong>When a scene is over, aftercare is the emotional and physical care that\u2019s administered, usually by a top. Proper aftercare may be used to prevent a drop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Age Play <\/strong>When one person takes on an older role and one person takes on a younger role, such as a father-daughter scenario.<\/p>\n\n\n\n BDSM <\/strong>An umbrella term used to describe a sexual practice that involves the use of physical control, psychological power, or pain. It typically includes the components of bondage and discipline, domination and submission, or sadism or masochism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bondage and Discipline <\/strong>A type of BDSM practice that incorporates bondage (tying, binding, or restraining someone) and discipline (punishing a submissive partner when they break a rule).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bottom <\/strong>The person in a scene who follows the orders and receives the sensations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Breath Play <\/strong>A form of play when one participant controls their breath. This may include choking or holding the breath.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Consent <\/strong>Agreeing to certain acts in a BDSM scene or relationship. Practitioners believe that consent is what separates BDSM from assault.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Contract <\/strong>An arrangement that outlines the rules and structures of a BDSM relationship. It may be written or oral.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dom <\/strong>A dominant who is male.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Domina <\/strong>A dominant who is female and embraces a feminine gender role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dominance and Submission (D\/S)<\/strong> A term for the behaviors or rituals that a submissive person follows in a BDSM relationship. In D\/S, one person usually has power over another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dominant <\/strong>A person who has the authority in a BDSM relationship or scene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drop <\/strong>The physical or emotional exhaustion that takes place after a scene. Both tops and bottoms may experience a drop. Crying, feeling sad, and physical shaking are all signs of a drop. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dungeon <\/strong>A location where BDSM play takes place (usually in a person\u2019s home or at a club).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dungeon Monitor <\/strong>A person (or group of people) who supervises BDSM activities at a club or play party to make sure the acts are safe and consensual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Edge Play <\/strong>BDSM acts that are considered more intense or dangerous, such as breath play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Female Dominance <\/strong>When a woman takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship or scene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Female Submission<\/strong> BDSM activity in which a woman submits to a sexual partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fetish <\/strong>An obsession with a specific experience, body part, or object.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fetish Wear <\/strong>The clothing worn by those who practice BDSM (usually leather attire or other role-playing costumes).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Gender Play <\/strong>A type of BDSM play when an individual in a scene takes on the role of the opposite gender.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hard Limits <\/strong>An activity that a person in a BDSM relationship absolutely won\u2019t do. A hard limit can\u2019t be negotiated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Impact Play<\/strong> A type of BDSM play that involves striking the body. This can be done with a hand, paddle, cane, whip, flogger, or other instrument.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kink <\/strong>Nonconventional sexual practices. BDSM is often referred to as kink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Master <\/strong>The person who has control over a slave in a consensual master-slave relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Male Dominance<\/strong> BDSM acts when the dominant partner is a man, also called maledom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Male Submission<\/strong> BDSM activities when the submissive participant is a man, also referred to as malesub.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Masochist <\/strong>An individual who likes or becomes sexually gratified by their own pain or humiliation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Munch <\/strong>An informal meeting or party, often at a public place, where people interested in BDSM can mingle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Play <\/strong>A term used to describe the BDSM acts themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Play Party <\/strong>A social gathering where guests can engage in BDSM activity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pro Domme <\/strong>A woman who is a professional top and dominant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Protocol <\/strong>A rule or rules that people practicing BDSM agree to follow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Role Play <\/strong>When one or more people take on a different identity during a scene. Examples may include teacher-student, doctor-patient, or boss-employee role plays. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sadism and Masochism<\/strong> This subset of BDSM involves inflicting pain or humiliation for the purpose of pleasure or sexual gratification.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sadist <\/strong>A person who enjoys or becomes sexually aroused by inflicting pain or humiliation on someone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) <\/strong>This phrase describes what the BDSM community considers ethical behavior. Kink enthusiasts stress that activities must always be safe, sane, and consensual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Safe Word <\/strong>An agreed upon word or phrase that a bottom, sub, or slave can say during a scene to stop the activity or session immediately. Some common safe words are \u201cred,\u201d \u201cred light,\u201d \u201cpineapple,\u201d and \u201cbanana.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Soft Limits <\/strong>A limit that\u2019s more flexible than a hard limit. It might be an act that a person is hesitant to perform but may be willing to try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Scene <\/strong>The actual BDSM activities or encounters that take place are known as a scene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Slave <\/strong>A person who gives up total control of one or more parts of their life to a master.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Submissive <\/strong>Someone who submits to a dominant person in a BDSM relationship or scene. 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